Tuesday, October 6, 2009


I do things in the very spur of the moment so today when I read this
http://www.dailyutahchronicle.com/news/student-remembered-as-passionate-hard-working-1.1940500 I wanted to email the friend and ask her what the untold story was??? so I found her on facebook and I wrote this email... but I need to go through it before I send it to make sure my point is clear and that I'm not being a complete jerk... so yeah tell me what you think...

to start, I am so sorry about the loss of your friend.

I am curious though about somethings, I really don't know how to bring this up but I guess the reasons don't matter it's the fact that 2 people thought that suicide was the answer.

there has to be a reason behind it and I guess that is what bothers me. I think it should be brought to the open (I am not the one to do it nor would I even consider it). there is more to it then the quote from his dad implying that it was school.

so again I really don't know why I am writing to you, I guess I just want to know why you think he did it... since I am a complete stranger you can be honest with me for my sake or you can ignore this email altogether.

I guess the way I look at it is, suicide is the ultimate voluntary (to a degree) way to give up and move on. so it is a decision (to a degree) that the person made. to avoid others from doing the same thing you should confront the issue publicly even if it is hard... I say this because a relatively close friend of mine killed himself because he was gay. I knew this and I know his family knew this but for everyone else it was left to he struggled with depression and couldn't overcome it. So it is a disservice to all those who have the problem because they continue to suffer in silence.

It seems this could be the case because his friend killed himself 8 months ago and now here we are today. and so the world can learn from this even if it is one person, but either way I will move on and only remember this when I hear a story of someone who gave up.


David Baker-@DB389 said...

appropriate response, I would send it.

Abelard Enigma said...

I think you bring up a valid point - that we need to understand the reasons behind a suicide so that we can possibly help prevent someone else from doing the same - but I would wait to send your email. Give your friend time mourn their loss.

Good to be Free said...

I agree, sounds like a good letter. In the end though, it may not be her decision to make. The parents may not wish for that information to get out. Just a thought.